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Next-Level Sex Resolutions

Vow to make 2017 your hottest yet with these six steamy endeavors. Talk about starting your year off with a bang!


By Julie Vadnal and Danielle Kam
Photos by Tensing Kramer/Trunk Carchive
5 min

Resolution 1: Have. More. Sex.

Because getting it on should happen as often as you damn well please! And research shows having regular sex reduces stress by releasing endorphins and oxytocin—and (get this!) it helps you sleep better, fights off colds, and can even make your skin glowy. So here’s how to put your more-action plan into, well, action.

Make Every Day a Foreplay Day

It’s no secret among sex experts that extended foreplay leads to satisfying sex and better orgasms for women—score! Sexologist Emily Morse takes it a step further: “We think of foreplay as what we do during the quick buildup to the main event. But it pays to view foreplay as an ongoing seduction that begins immediately after your last orgasm and continues right up until you two are in bed again.” So once you catch your breath, start revving your engines for your next time, whether it’s in an hour, a few days, or a week. Focus on the lusty looks you give each other in passing, the sexy texts you send, and the kissing and touching that’ll lead to your next session.

Screw Spontaneity

There are two types of desire: spontaneous and responsive. Spontaneous is that magical, must-have-you-now encounter that starts with a flirty glance in his direction and ends with simultaneous orgasms in an outdoor shower—think Hollywood movie sex. But guess what? Studies indicate that only about 15 percent of women (compared with 75 percent of men) experience desire this way. So instead, focus on responsive desire, which you two generate yourselves. Plan a night in to blast The Weeknd, make fancy cocktails, and dance really close—and let it lead to bedroom high notes that last all, um, weeknd.

Resolution 2: Get Yours!

Yeah, it’s good to be a giver, but too often, we put our partner’s pleasure before our own. So no more of that this year. Instead, prioritize your own orgasm with these bold moves.

Make Oral Even Hotter

The next time he’s going downtown, encourage him to insert his fingers and slowly stroke inside you while you shift your hips to guide his tongue to just the right spot. This blended-O bliss event will change your life.

Give Yourself the Finger

In missionary, keep your legs bent underneath your thighs while he enters you at the perfect G-spot-loving angle. In this uplifting position, you’ll have open access to rub your clitoris in small circles with the pads of your pointer and middle fingers as he grinds.

Resolution 3: Push Your Boundaries

Being adventurous in bed can make you two feel like primal pioneers conquering new territories (aka each other!). Research shows that frequent sexploration enhances your connection.

Dabble in Domination

Finally, a from-behind position where you’re in control. While he lies on his back, straddle him, facing his feet, and get on all fours. Back it up until he’s inside you, then move at your desired pace. Your G-spot gets some serious stimulation—and he gets to enjoy the view.

Plan a Sultry Surprise

The next time he picks you up for date night, greet him at the door in nothing but your bra and panties or just a bath towel, and let him know that you still need a few more minutes to get ready. Your restaurant rezzie can totally wait....

Get a Little Freaky

Blindfold him with something you already have in your house—a scarf, his tie, your cami—and trace your fingers all along his body until he’s all warmed up. Every minute that goes by will build his anticipation for when you finally remove it and let him see your sexy self.

Rsolution 4: Boost your Bedroom Bond

When it comes to upping your coital connection, there are two ways you and your guy can go....

LOW-KEY

Ride the Couch—Then Him

This is your time to be lazy and sexy. Your only mission is to watch TV with your boo. Yep! A study in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships says that couples who don’t have the same friend group reported more satisfying relationships when they shared TV shows, books, and movies. While you cuddle, binge on a show that neither of you has seen. Research also indicates that sharing new experiences brings you closer, so go ahead and dive into that weird doc about how octopuses mate. Just don’t be surprised if he can’t control his own tentacles around you later!

HIGH-KEY

Try a Trickier-Than-Normal Move

When you’re in your usual GOT (that’s girl-on-top, not Game of Thrones, ha) and you feel him about to climax, guide him toward the edge of the mattress. (Extra points if you two can do this with him still inside you— it’s not easy.) Let his arms and head dangle off the side of the bed while you get back to grinding. Not only will you feel like the queen of his personal Westeros, the extra rush of blood to his head will also give him a full-body experience. It’s a skill-requiring maneuver that’ll have you high-fiving at your naughty teamwork.

Resolution 5 Master the Art of Dirty Talk

Try these stress-free scripts that are steamy, not scary.

Text Him an Emoji Brainteaser

Go with this exact sequence, and then type “Figure out the riddle....It’s what I want you to do to me tonight.” Okay, so he might only compute the melons part.

Send Him a Hot Voice Memo

...But be sure to cut it off just as you’re about to say the sexy stuff, like this: “I was in the shower and started thinking about that hot thing you did the other day, and I swear I got so.…” The anticipation will drive him completely insane.

Unleash Your Inner Sex Kitten

Admit it...she’s been dying to come out. An easy way to let her shine? Play a game of show- and-tell. Say to him, “I’ve been thinking about you doing this to me all day,” then guide his hands exactly where you want them.

Resolution 6: Trick Out Your Toy Drawer

Spice things up with these sexy new playthings—we dare you!

For More Foreplay Fun

The prongs on the Crave Duet Flex fit around your clitoris and rumble like the bass at a Lil Wayne concert. Use it during doggie, or hold it against your cheek when you go down on his lollipop.

$109, lovecrave.com

For Making Even Missionary Amazing

Place the Tenga Vi-Bo ring at the base of his shaft, and squirm with pleasure as he becomes a human-size sex toy that gives your clit a welcome buzz with every thrust.

$24, babeland.com

For Doubling the Pleasure

Slip the small end of the We-Vibe Sync inside for oh-my-god G-spot feels while the larger end rests against your clitoris. Then he enters you too—he’ll fit, promise!

$199, we-vibe.com